On an Aero Plane with So many questions
As I alluded to in my last blog, I am working on a book. It is a book about questions about relationships. I love to ask questions because of what they provide. The question allows an opportunity for an answer. That answer is knowledge, and knowledge, as we know is power. That knowledge gives power in the relationship. Pretty exciting right?
I started asking these questions nearly 6 years ago when I started dating my last girlfriend, because she became my wife. I grew tired of asking her and her family the same questions: how’s work? how’s your sports team? how’s class? what’s your… you get the picture. Instead, I wanted to take a creative approach to learning about people and gaining power in the relationship. Nearly three years ago I decided to make this into a book. I began asking people from all over the world, nearly every demographic, and a diversified social spectrum these “random questions”.
Over half a year ago that aforementioned wife of mine influenced me to be serious about making it into a book. I pledged to ask these questions to over 1,000 people to really see if these questions told me what I thought they did. Surprisingly, they did! Time and time again, the responses to these questions from strangers supported answers from other strangers.
I give this introduction because I am writing this on an airplane on my way to the Philippines. I would love to talk about the Philippines, but due to limited time, space, and attention, I will save that for another time. Instead, I will introduce you to the first question I asked 6 years ago: “If you were traveling through the desert, would you ride a Llama or elephant?” I didn’t know what I was asking my significant other at the time, but after asking this particular question well over 100 times to many different people, the results are reoccurring: Elephant riders like stability and llama riders like spontaneity. There is obviously much more to this question, but you’ll have to wait patiently for my book.
There are so many people surrounding me on this particular plane, in the previous and future airports, and on the roads in the Philippines. Unfortunately, I cannot talk to too many of them because language barriers. Many may think my questions are random and annoying coming from a stranger, but it is my belief that I need to take advantage of the individuals I can ask. People have stories, and if we are bold enough to ask, we may just learn that your new acquaintance has ridden an elephant when they visited their son and daughter-in-law in Thailand. Which “stereotypical question” would get you knowing that about a person?
Relationships are important. Here at Garvinwood Church, we strive to be a place of friendly fellowship. That means we desire to be friendly, compassionate, kind, interested, and so much more in everyone, not just our friends. Let’s do our part to make this world a better place. We can do that by taking out loans and building things like this huge plane, or we can simply take a loan out of the relational bank and ask someone a question. Who wants to join me?